Support Group Retreat being held February 2017

Coming up in February 2017, Trihope will once again be holding a retreat style support group for survivors of sexual assault based upon the In the Wildflowers curriculum. 

The retreat format provides an opportunity for survivors to step back from their busy lives and take some much needed time to seek God's healing for the wounds they have carried for so long. The retreat will be led by members of the Trihope team and will explore several topics, including sharing stories, releasing shame, and healing through God's love and ministering to others. With several of the retreat leaders coming from backgrounds of sexual assault, they understand many of the emotional difficulties and the courage that is involved in participating in such a group and are prepared to walk alongside group members in the difficult, but freeing, journey of restoration that will take place over the course of the retreat.

The retreat will take place from Thursday, February 23rd at 7 pm to Sunday, February 26th at 5 pm at Bay Shore Camp, 450 N. Miller St, Sebewaing, MI 48759. Enrollment packs are available now by contacting us via email at info@trihopemichigan.com. The total cost of the retreat including room, meals and workbook materials is $250 per person for a shared room (an additional $100 per person for a single room). All materials, including the $250 retreat fee (made payable to Trihope), are due by January 29th. Completed materials can be emailed to info@trihopemichigan.com, placed in the Trihope mailbox at NLCF, or mailed to New Life Christian Fellowship, ATTN: Trihope, 6115 Shattuck Rd, Saginaw, MI 48603.

Please note: We cannot guarantee a place on the retreat for enrollment materials and/or fees turned in after the January 29th due date.

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How can I help YOU feel safe? Advice to professionals from a trauma survivor…

From teachers and policemen to doctors and dentists, there are many professionals who encounter people who are suffering from trauma-related conditions such as Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). As a person with PTSD myself, I have encountered many well-meaning professionals floundering when my PTSD causes me to be an ‘uncooperative’ and extremely terrified individual. Doctors, policemen and dentists have often become very frustrated with me and in turn try to use
threats or force to get me to cooperate – the very opposite of what I need.

Although I am saddened over the lack of training available and/or taken advantage of by professionals in all sorts of areas, I would like to pass on one easy method of helping individuals of trauma. That is to make them feel safe.

During traumatic events, whether it’s car accidents, childhood abuse, natural disasters, war or sexual assaults, the victim is often:

1. Not in control. These traumatic events happen to them. There was no way to control what they felt, saw or experienced.
2. Not safe. By very definition, trauma is experiencing something to which the victim feels unsafe, whether this is perceived or realized.

Hence, the best way to help a victim of trauma, is to create a setting where they are in control and safe. How might this look?

Scenario 1

Witness at a police station is sitting on chair, rocking back and forth, unable to control their shaking limbs or make eye-contact with police.

What to do:

• Get down on their level, i.e. sit if they're sitting.
• Keep a safe distance.
• Talk gently.
• Ask how you can help them feel safe. Do they need a blanket or an object to hold onto to ground them? Do they need a policeman of a different gender or an advocate?

Scenario 2

Survivor of sexual abuse is at a dentist having their teeth cleaned. Their legs are uncontrollably shaking and they are unable to keep still.

What to do:

• Talk gently – remembering to keep frustration or impatience out of your voice.
• Ask the patient for permission for everything you do, i.e. “Is it okay if I place this bib on you?” or “Is it okay if I look at your teeth with this mirror?”
• Ask the patient to come up with a signal that they are needing a break such as raising their hand.
• Ask them how you can help them feel safe. Do they need a weighted blanket, or to have music playing, or for you to talk to them during the whole procedure?

Again, the greatest help you can be to a traumatized individual is to make them feel safe and in control as much as possible. Working with trauma victims takes patience and gentleness, but remember that you have no idea what they are reliving and you may be the one person that can help them overcome their fears and crippling traumatic responses.